I currently in the midst of a 6 month relationship (we are now apart for the summer) and frankly, there is nothing wrong with the relationship, but I just want to be single.

When I get back to college in the fall I want to have my independance to go out and chill with my boys, hit up the clubs, and go to parties. I want to meet all the new girls in my apartment complex (my first time living there). I want to check if the incoming freshman class is offering a lot of hotties. I want to hit up the gym with my friends and talk about the crazy things that we all did during the weekend. I don't want to be home on friday nights because my girlfriend wants to watch a movie. I don't want to be tied down with girlfriend type obligations during the new college semester. I just want the bachelor-type lifestyle again.

Do you guys think there is anything wrong with this? What would be the best way to tell this to my girlfriend (since it is gonna sound harsh if I just tell her I want to break up to be single again)?

Seems to me that there IS something wrong with the relationship: your feelings. If you're not more committed to your girlfriend than that, there's nothing to gain for either of you by staying together. As I see it, honesty is always the best way to go. Unless her feelings fade too, she's not going to get less hurt by waiting longer.

I dont think there is anything wrong with wanting to be single. I've been single for about 8 months now and I love it, I'm not pressured into going out when I should be studying, I've saved heaps of money and I dont have to deal with the general problems of a relationship. Sure, my feeling mights change in the near future, but for now Im enjoying it.

Just tell her and she may be upset initially but in the long run you are doing yourself and her a big favour. There is nothing worse than being stuck in a relationship that does not have a future.

Marcus :cool:

A rule you should try to follow is to try not to hurt others but at the same time strive to be happy. So if you are indiferent about this relationship and in future it could make you unhappy since you will miss out on the things you want to do, so... Only you truly know the answer!

No there is nothing wrong with that. When I was in college I didn't date anyone longer than a couple of months (usually more like a couple of weeks). I partied, hung out with my girlfriends and kept my options open. I had a blast!! Now that I have settled down I am really content, but I am SO glad I had those moments to be wild and crazy without any real obligations to anyone. If I hadn't done so, I wouldn't be where I am now. I wouldn't know what I wanted out of a relationship. I say you are young and live it up while the time is right!! :D

Do you guys think there is anything wrong with this? What would be the best way to tell this to my girlfriend (since it is gonna sound harsh if I just tell her I want to break up to be single again)?

Definitely nothing wrong with that. The worst thing you could do to her would be to start resenting her because you'd rather be out doing other things. Be honest, then have fun. Hurting people sucks, but telling her before you start to regret the relationship will be the kindest way to end it.

All I can say is be careful what you wish for


Jason

Be honest with her and yourself. Everyone will be better off for it.

Be honest, but try to explain it differently then you did here.. Don't kill the poor girl :P