hey guys im curious about two things.
firstly, i want to share one thing. I have no real cravings for sweet, junk, or any of the sorts. but in some cases when I face unhealthy food or something that is out of my diet, i.e at a guests house or if i come home from university and i dont eat my regular meals, I tend to eat it. Meaning, when its infront of me, its very hard for me to control not eating it and i tend to eat it, and lots of it. But when its not around me im completely find, and i dont go out looking for that kind of food. Is it just a matter of resisting it, and how would you deal with that. and also, how do you bounce back when you ate something not part of your diet? do you "punish" yourself in any way? do you just shrug it off and keep going? do you feel guilty or just say i made a mistake and carry on? do you beat yourself over it. Also, do you believe that we cant always truly avoid those foods? i.e you will be at social gatherings that will be a dinner and you will almost have to eat what is served. for example, I have a dinner tomorrow at my gfs house and food is gonna be served there, obviously unhealthy? what can I do? should i just eat some of it out of politness and carry on and just burn it off in the gym?
thanks guys

Mikey,

I suggest you get a handle on this stuff, and learn to find some balance, as it doesn't sound like you're operating in a healthy headspace when it comes to your overall view on dieting and nutrition in general.

"punish yourself", "assign guilt", "beat yourself up" ?? Now if someone told you "yeah, I suggest you do all of those things", why in the heck would you listen to anything they have to say?

I don't care how perfect your macro count is our how "clean" all your food sources are, if your diet is a source of unnecessary anxiety and stress in your life, then it is NOT healthy in my view.

If you take a look at the people who truly do respond best under strict and rigid diet controls, I think you'll find a trend where they actually feel less stress and more of a calming effect by following their plan. If you try and force this upon someone who is not naturally inclined to sway towards that end, some nasty shit can happen.

What is being served at your gf's house? Why is it "obviously unhealthy?" I suggest you eat a reasonable portion of what is served, and have a good time.

I'n not really sure what you said makes sense. all i asked is what you do in those situations? what are you getting at? Im just curious as to what you do in the aftermath of having your diet thrown off it track. From what i gather, you are saying forget about it and dont stress about it? by punish and guilt feeling , I'm trying to see if it has any effect on you mentally, i.e do you do something differently after cheating? do you eat less after, do you eat less the next day, do you hit the gym harder or do you just stay on track?

What is your definition of "cheating?"

I would just stay on track overall, and see the big picture for what it is.

I do hope I'm misreading you, I would just question what would even cause someone to phrase their questions the way you did.

Note i put "punish" in quatation marks. When that word is put in quotation marks, its usually used for exaggeration purposes, i.e punishment in the most mild sense of the word. i.e maybe u eat less for the day or the next day, maybe you dont have a cheat meal that week, etc. I think if you read my post again, you will see its really not that bad. the only other word that i can see that would make you respeond the way you did is the guilt feelings. What i mean is i know some people would feel guilty out there, and even i do sometimes. You can't possibly tell me there arent any people out there like that. Hence, I would like to hear some input from potential people like that around here. is there anyone here the "punshies them selves" or feels guilty, and how do they deal with the aftermath of cheating. i know that I defenetely sometimes feel guilty, and dissapointed in myself. You cant tell me there is something wrong with me because its just how i feel, and hence im asking these questions to see if there is anybody else out there like me who can help me and shed some light on how they handle things. So please, try to not be so critical, I think you blew my use of words way out of proportion.

Mike, I can understand what your saying and your origional post did seem abut funny and panicy (if that's even a word) but goonies not having a dig at you.

I don't have cheat meals but I do fall of the wagon abut every now and again. Take last night my family had spag bol ans garlic bread for dinner. Asked if I wanted any I said I'd make my own pasta (wholemeal) and I'd pass on the garlic bread. Once dinner was done there was a couple of bits of greasy garlic bread left over. I whacked them on my plate and chowed down. Imediatly after I felt guilty and abit annoyed with myself that I was weak and gave into temptation. 30 seconds later I'd forgoten about it. It's not a nice feeling knowing you've been good all week and one moment of weakness spoiled it but it litteraly lasted a few seconds.
I think it's different when your at somebodys house or at some kind of event because your limited to what you can have and some times there's not a healthier option. In these circumstances I just try to eat in moderation. I don't get annoyed or feel guilty because I know I've been good all week and I deserve a little treat.

Your choice of words does speak for you.

Someone I know is a fitness and diet nut, training for a marathon now. His view is that he can go to good restaurants and indulge on food and drink, provided that he compensates for it by pushing himself harder and further in the next day's workout.

If he viewed that as punishing himself, it'd be unhealthy, because he's treating the indulgence as a failure. Failure is demotivating.

Instead, he's treating it as something he plans on doing, will be doing in the future, and compensates for it, incorporating it into his life. He uses it as a treat, to reward his hard training, and on the other side uses it as a motivation to keep training hard.

If he encounters anything obviously unhealthy (pie, deepfried stuff) outside his scheduled meal times, he just declines the offer.

Your choice of words betrays your choice of thought. Keep things positive, and it won't be a problem.