Well..............I elected to stay at a friends house tonight until 10 and drank BEER as much as I could (kind of like a safe haven)....wife came over there at 8 and busted in and saw that I was drinking, didn't say a word (until I came home). Once I came home and started playing some poker she said "I don't like you staying up all night and drinking ", to which i couldn't honesly refute. I like to (about every other night lately) hide this from her and do it. EVEN tried to dump the "excess" in the trash (which she figured out and said "She's not stupid"). Am cold busted. I have no choice but to quit...........or to get a divorce (which I don't want, just got married June 28th, she didn't say the divorce word)..................Fitness, marriage is WAY more important to me than that. Any hints/thoughts/ suggestions? Mastover told me LONG ago that it wouldn't work with me doing this.

J

Well..............I elected to stay at a friends house tonight until 10 and drank BEER as much as I could (kind of like a safe haven)....wife came over there at 8 and busted in and saw that I was drinking, didn't say a word (until I came home). Once I came home and started playing some poker she said "I don't like you staying up all night and drinking ", to which i couldn't honesly refute. I like to (about every other night lately) hide this from her and do it. EVEN tried to dump the "excess" in the trash (which she figured out and said "She's not stupid"). Am cold busted. I have no choice but to quit...........or to get a divorce (which I don't want, just got married June 28th, she didn't say the divorce word)..................Fitness, marriage is WAY more important to me than that. Any hints/thoughts/ suggestions? Mastover told me LONG ago that it wouldn't work with me doing this.

J

Hiding your drinking is a pretty clear sign that you are on the path (if not already) an alcoholic. Get some real help, there are lots of resources available and not all of them require you to stop drinking forever.