Ok recently everyone pointed out that cutting out resistance training and eating less than 2000 calories was not the best way to go around fat loss. Is this because:

You told me to eat more (starting today around 3000 calories)

A) If you have excess calories and you don't do resistance training your body converts the excess energy to fat.

B) If you have excess calories and you do resistance training your body uses the excess energy to build/repair your muscles.

I think these statements are correct? or have I just lost the plot? lol! :lol:

Thats pretty much the jist of things :)

once it clicks like this then i understand why i must not starve my body :P

If you do not feed yourself enough, your metabolism will slow down, making your fat burning process less efficient. It could also drain your energy and make you tired or grumpy.

If you don't strength train, you will lose muscle mass at the same time that you lose fat mass, and you'll end up a smaller version of your flabby self. :(

It could also drain your energy and make you tired or grumpy.

lol that sounds just like me :P always tired...sometimes grumpy

it doesn't help my motivation that my fiancee is dead set against me getting in shape either :rolleyes:

I'm with Guava here.

lol that sounds just like me :P always tired...sometimes grumpy

it doesn't help my motivation that my fiancee is dead set against me getting in shape either :rolleyes:
Not to take this discussion off course, but I can never understand how people's significant others can be against them getting in shape. I don't know the degree to which she is against it, but if it's more than her jokingly saying so and causes actual fights, she just may not be the one. You need to be with someone who will always support you no matter what, especially when it's something that will improve your health.

That said, regardless of the above issue, you're only 20... RUN!

oh yep, we fight alot over it, i partially see where she's coming from, shes afraid if i look too nice other women might try to steal me away...wont happen though, they try even now and it doesn't work on me lol! immunity..

Off topic - http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/sci/tech/6548719.stm lol! mmm who needs to eat all that chicken for protein when u can get a T. Rex lol! yummy!..although it might eat you first....(if it wasn't extinct)

also i'm trying to get her into shape but she just refuses out-right....and then complains and gets upset when she thinks she looks fat....

also i'm trying to get her into shape but she just refuses out-right....and then complains and gets upset when she thinks she looks fat....
That pretty much explains why she doesn't want you to get in shape.

My husband was much more content when I was overweight, because I was much more likely to overlook all the beer he was drinking and chips he was eating, and lack of exercise he was getting.

She was happy how you were, and she's happy how she is. Especially if you're making more than just a gradual changes, I'm not surprised that she's uncomfortable about your different habits. You're not as similar anymore.

she didnt know me when i was large, she knew me when i was about 10lb heavier so i didn't lose that much since i been with her, shes the main reason that my work outs etc are disrupted, i have to spend every waking moment with her etc...lol

oh yep, we fight alot over it, i partially see where she's coming from, shes afraid if i look too nice other women might try to steal me away...wont happen though, they try even now and it doesn't work on me lol! immunity..

Off topic - http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/sci/tech/6548719.stm lol! mmm who needs to eat all that chicken for protein when u can get a T. Rex lol! yummy!..although it might eat you first....(if it wasn't extinct)

also i'm trying to get her into shape but she just refuses out-right....and then complains and gets upset when she thinks she looks fat....

While I do not expect you to take the words of a random person over the internet seriously, I can promise you judging by this post and your last one alone, neither of you are mature enough to be married.

Just my unprofessional opinion.

I'll just keep doing what I'm doing, end of the day we can both be very mature...me not so much, but I can be, and we both want the same things, Even if we're complete opposites as far as having something in common goes. We just enjoy spending time together doing anything and nothing.

and at the end of the day if she dumps me then..well.....I always got you guys (i'm sure someone here would cheer me up on those blue days) and my goal to get in shape :)...or just concentrate on my career..for-which I will be making a post now...

Sounds like trust issues.

I know how this one goes. I am only 21 and was engaged to a girl who liked me for "who I am" and didn't really care to see me get in shape. I'm way over weight, too. I don't think it was trust so much as insecurity and craziness on her part, but it ended a couple months ago.

Good luck getting there.

Now you are taking in 3000 calories, right?, I would think that is nearer your maintenance level rather than cutting. have you measured your BMR?:confused:

It could be my maintenance but thats what I was aiming for after months of under-eating.

I don't use BMR to calculate my calorific needs, I've been using the Katch-McArdle formula (from Burn the Fat, Feed the Muscle by Tom Venuto) which works on lean body mass.

EG (from the book

Weight: 172lbs (78kg)
BF%: 14% (24.1lb fat, 147.9lb lean)

convert lean to kg, ie 67.2
BMR = 370 + (21.6 x 67.2) = 1821 calories, multiply by your activity factor to get your TDEE


I was going to eat at maintenance for 2-3 weeks and then drop it down to see if it works :P

Although I'm still not entirely sure about what I should set my activity factor for.