I'm just wondering :) All the guys I've dated have not been obese, but I have never dated a guy who worked out and ate healthy like John or any of the guys on this site. I guess to date a guy who is inshape and who also loves to work out and eat healhty is a fantasy..isn't that weird?

wow.

I dated a guy for two years who was in pretty good shape, hardly had to do anything to get very nicely defined biceps (it was genetic- all his brothers and his dad had them too), and looked like some kinda cross between James Dean and Leonardo DiCaprio.

And he was a LOUSY boyfriend. The only reason it lasted as long as it did was cause I was too young and stupid to realize that I was as attached to his looks as he was. Once I got smart and realized I deserved to be treated better, I was outta there.

Guess what? My self confidence grew by leaps and bounds upon getting out of that relationship.

woeisemma,

That's funny. :)

/not that there's anything wrong with that

I guess to date a guy who is inshape and who also loves to work out and eat healhty is a fantasy..isn't that weird?

Not at all. What guy doesn't fantasize about dating a girl who is in shape and who loves to work out and eat healthy? :)

no , but being very active myself, i would love to meet a guy like that!

confused about your response. Did you say Wow because my post was shallow or?

wow.

My b/f is not in shape and has no intentions of getting in shape..I don't even know any guys who work out regularly...it's just something that makes me go *sigh* I wish I could meet a great guy who loves to work out cuz I love to work out but oh well! :) woeisemma,

That's funny. :)

/not that there's anything wrong with that

For some reason you look like you'd be from England or something :) Don't know why I never saw you lived in Georgia.I dated a guy for two years who was in pretty good shape, hardly had to do anything to get very nicely defined biceps (it was genetic- all his brothers and his dad had them too), and looked like some kinda cross between James Dean and Leonardo DiCaprio.

And he was a LOUSY boyfriend. The only reason it lasted as long as it did was cause I was too young and stupid to realize that I was as attached to his looks as he was. Once I got smart and realized I deserved to be treated better, I was outta there.

Guess what? My self confidence grew by leaps and bounds upon getting out of that relationship.

For some reason you look like you'd be from England or something :) Don't know why I never saw you lived in Georgia.

Hm. I look like I'd be from England? Never heard that one before. I've only lived in Atlanta 2 years. I'm a California girl through and through. Born in LA, raised in San Diego. :tucool:

Anyone need a date? :D

I've never been with a guy who works out, eats right, with a great body til John started this last year :) I always went for guys on the thin side... including John who was very thin when I met him 15 years ago. It's pretty nice though :o
and I doubt the wow. response you got was because he thought your post was shallow, considering his avatar ;) LOL

His avatar :p I've never been with a guy who works out, eats right, with a great body til John started this last year :) I always went for guys on the thin side... including John who was very thin when I met him 15 years ago. It's pretty nice though :o
and I doubt the wow. response you got was because he thought your post was shallow, considering his avatar ;) LOL

life is too short to settle. you deserve a guy who is in shape and will treat you well. maybe get a membership at the local university gym... that way you might cut down on the "meat-head" factor if you are looking for another guy...? either that or give your current BF a link to this site?

Seriously though, you seem committed to getting/staying in shape, so why shouldnt your partner do the same?

--Rob

His avatar :p


The "wow" was not meant to indicate any shallowness in your post whatsoever.

I have a girlfriend and I'm very happy with her, but I still think you're a hottie. :o

I also think that it is hard to find a GF that eats healthy and workouts like i do... I had a steady GF that was an athlete for about 6 years, and she was the only one that could somewhat understand me. I have been seeing couple of women in the last few months, and I was almost feeling awkward and they made me feel awkward about me eating healthy, and getting up early in the morning for a run. Those girls were in good shape, but they did nothing much to keep that shape. I guess it will definetely show when they hit 30 yr.old.

hmmm, business idea? :) ok john, time to build out the matchmaking module on johnstonefitness.com!

i got on the fitness bandwagon first and now my honey is in on it too. i love it~ we work out together on weekends and help keep each other motivated and we plan our cheating and our healthy meals together. it's really great that we share similar goals and has brought us closer since we have made it a huge part of our lives

his arms and chest are getting bigger and hard. he wants to be shredded like john and he is not that far off. i love it.

*drool!* :)

That is what I want Chops! I'm so jealous. WAH

QUOTE=chops]i got on the fitness bandwagon first and now my honey is in on it too. i love it~ we work out together on weekends and help keep each other motivated and we plan our cheating and our healthy meals together. it's really great that we share similar goals and has brought us closer since we have made it a huge part of our lives

his arms and chest are getting bigger and hard. he wants to be shredded like john and he is not that far off. i love it.

*drool!* :)[/QUOTE]

I'm not looking for another guy..and I did go to my university gym..the soccer team and wrestlers intimidated me and they were always there when I was so I switched to my apartment's gym. I know life is too short to settle and I don't plan on staying with this boyfriend forever.. he has seen my before/after pix and he'll get motivated for 1 second and then go out to Taco Bell. I've shown him John's site many times and his excuse is "I don't have time to eat all that or work out." OH WELL :) life is too short to settle. you deserve a guy who is in shape and will treat you well. maybe get a membership at the local university gym... that way you might cut down on the "meat-head" factor if you are looking for another guy...? either that or give your current BF a link to this site?

Seriously though, you seem committed to getting/staying in shape, so why shouldnt your partner do the same?

--Rob

:)

hmmm, business idea? :) ok john, time to build out the matchmaking module on johnstonefitness.com!

There are a lot of people from England who buy 20 pairs of shoes at Nike(where I work) and take them back to England and sell them!

The "wow" was not meant to indicate any shallowness in your post whatsoever.

I have a girlfriend and I'm very happy with her, but I still think you're a hottie. :o

There are a lot of people from England who buy 20 pairs of shoes at Nike(where I work) and take them back to England and sell them!

I bet that's just because it gives them an excuse to come and see you!

But seriously, Nike's new styles are a big thing in the UK because they are released here much later than in the US. The major UK sports stores often have exclusive styles from Nike and they are sold at well above average price. English People who go to the States often buy lots of pairs because they know they'll be able to sell them at a huge profit.

And BTW, I think it's perfectly natural to want your partner to share your interest in improving your health and body. But when I'm wrapped up in my muscle building quest, I find it's easy to forget all the other important stuff that can be taken for granted about my partner. My GF is nowhere near as fitness-focussed as me but she's amazing in every other way.

There are a lot of people from England who buy 20 pairs of shoes at Nike(where I work) and take them back to England and sell them!

No kidding, huh? The first time I took my (English) husband to the Levi's outlet, he bought six pairs of jeans. SIX.

Of course, with the current exchange rate, it might not be such a brilliant deal anymore...

Is it really that hard to find a guy that workout and does this as a lifestyle? My five closes friends are all like me and all are single. We are all basically 8-10% of body fat and hit the gym 4 time a week. In the weekends we take morning walks and hang out. Feels strange that it seems that hard to find a guy that likes to stay in shape....hmmm???


No kidding, huh? The first time I took my (English) husband to the Levi's outlet, he bought six pairs of jeans. SIX.

Of course, with the current exchange rate, it might not be such a brilliant deal anymore...

my state is one of the fattest in America. I work at an athetic store, Nike, and you'd think the employees would be in shape somewhat..but nope, 95% of the employees are overweight.



Is it really that hard to find a guy that workout and does this as a lifestyle? My five closes friends are all like me and all are single. We are all basically 8-10% of body fat and hit the gym 4 time a week. In the weekends we take morning walks and hang out. Feels strange that it seems that hard to find a guy that likes to stay in shape....hmmm???

Is it really that hard to find a guy that workout and does this as a lifestyle? My five closes friends are all like me and all are single. We are all basically 8-10% of body fat and hit the gym 4 time a week. In the weekends we take morning walks and hang out. Feels strange that it seems that hard to find a guy that likes to stay in shape....hmmm???


Obesity is at epidemic levels in the United States, surpassing tobacco as the #1 cause of health issues.

So, a lot of people say that life is too short to settle for something less than perfect basically. But what is perfect? Is perfect the guy/girl with the perfect body, perfect health and perfect checking acount, or is the perfect guy/girl the one that makes you happy, no matter what his/her body size, health status or economic situation?

Every human has fantasies. Imagination is a big part of being human, but nothing says that you have to go after the fantasies just because you have them.

The choice is yours, of course. If you want to break up with somebody because you want to go for the dream, you should. Being truly in love with someone would keep you from breaking up with him/her, no matter what. One should consider all the consequences though. Dreams sometimes have a bitter aftertaste.

Dreams sometimes have a bitter aftertaste.

And sometimes they dont.

Bottom line though, is if you don't chase them, you'll never know.

Is it really that hard to find a guy that workout and does this as a lifestyle? My five closes friends are all like me and all are single. We are all basically 8-10% of body fat and hit the gym 4 time a week. In the weekends we take morning walks and hang out. Feels strange that it seems that hard to find a guy that likes to stay in shape....hmmm???

you know that saying "birds of a feather flock together". its one of your main interests so it's natural that you and your buddies have some of the same hobbies.

no, i don't think it's that hard to meet people who are in shape though, just like it's not hard to meet ppl out of shape either. it just is dependent on where you go spend your time. i.e. not likely to see any hardbodies at the hometown buffet restaurant, but go to the hot club in town and there you go.

So, a lot of people say that life is too short to settle for something less than perfect basically. But what is perfect? Is perfect the guy/girl with the perfect body, perfect health and perfect checking acount, or is the perfect guy/girl the one that makes you happy, no matter what his/her body size, health status or economic situation?

Every human has fantasies. Imagination is a big part of being human, but nothing says that you have to go after the fantasies just because you have them.

The choice is yours, of course. If you want to break up with somebody because you want to go for the dream, you should. Being truly in love with someone would keep you from breaking up with him/her, no matter what. One should consider all the consequences though. Dreams sometimes have a bitter aftertaste.

it's true that dreams can have a bitter aftertaste, but it's also true that they can be achieved. i mean this in every sense, not just in pursuit of relationships.

Hi!

True that. But if you give it a firm look most people that look to be in shape ain't when the clothes come of. Seen this alot of times. Specially when you go in the beach area in the summer.

you know that saying "birds of a feather flock together". its one of your main interests so it's natural that you and your buddies have some of the same hobbies.

no, i don't think it's that hard to meet people who are in shape though, just like it's not hard to meet ppl out of shape either. it just is dependent on where you go spend your time. i.e. not likely to see any hardbodies at the hometown buffet restaurant, but go to the hot club in town and there you go.

Bottom line though, is if you don't chase them, you'll never know.
I saw this basketball poster that said "You miss every shot you dont take". I like that one.

I saw this basketball poster that said "You miss every shot you dont take". I like that one. :)

I like that too!

Is it really that hard to find a guy that workout and does this as a lifestyle? My five closes friends are all like me and all are single. We are all basically 8-10% of body fat and hit the gym 4 time a week. In the weekends we take morning walks and hang out. Feels strange that it seems that hard to find a guy that likes to stay in shape....hmmm???

If you're not interested in a thing yourself, it's hard to meet people who are--you move in different circles.

I have never been that interested in exercise particularly. I'm still not, except that John's photos show how much faster the process goes with exercise than it ever did for me without. Exercise isn't the end for me, it's the means. Kinda like the difference between a car enthusiast and someone who has a car so they can get from here to there.

In high school there was a guy who worked out regularly that I liked, but we never went out because he was in the "in" crowd and I wasn't. In college I met up with an overweight guy I liked, and then a very skinny in-shape guy I eventually married. I have never dated a muscular in-shape guy. Up until recently I was pretty well convinced that there weren't any guys who liked to work out who also had a brain in their heads for anything *other* than working out. All the brainy guys (the ones I'm more interested in talking to) spent more time doing other things than working out, and looked it.

That's probably a really awful stereotype, it should be possible to be brainy and buff at the same time. I wouldn't know, because I'm not likely to meet buff guys doing the things I like to do (read books, putter in the garage, mess around on the computer, pet cats, watch food TV).

Of course, as a body I'm not likely to catch the interest of someone who works out regularly--I don't look the type, and I'm not, really. I never hung out at clubs or gyms or beaches or places where skimpy clothes were the norm--I'm an introvert, and those places are for extroverts.

For me now to become interested in working out is somewhat out of character. If I do other things that are out of character in a similar way, I might run into some brainy buff guys. But we won't be dating. :)

shris
:eat:
Married 10 years so far..

Hi!

Just a comment on this. The thing with working out for me is just a thing I do for myself. I have always been very active since I was a small kid. Was a promising tennis player but ended up injured and just got feed up with the amount of practice.

Today I am 26 and have a office job. I sit down in my chair basically all day. Thats not the way I actually am. I need to go out and move around. I found my thing in going to the gym. I don't need to worry about anyone else who might not show up. Everything is up to myself and I can't complain and blame anyone else for not showing up in the gym.

When it comes to dating I really don't care if the person I date works out at the gym as much as me or not. I just like outgoing active persons that take care of them selfs. If that comes in the shape of going to the gym or just taking walks doesn't really bother me. I have seen guys that rush there girlfriends in to staying thin and pressuring them into things they don't want to. That doesn't work in the long run.

And yeah there are gyms that are buffy and have brains....

/L


If you're not interested in a thing yourself, it's hard to meet people who are--you move in different circles.

I have never been that interested in exercise particularly. I'm still not, except that John's photos show how much faster the process goes with exercise than it ever did for me without. Exercise isn't the end for me, it's the means. Kinda like the difference between a car enthusiast and someone who has a car so they can get from here to there.

In high school there was a guy who worked out regularly that I liked, but we never went out because he was in the "in" crowd and I wasn't. In college I met up with an overweight guy I liked, and then a very skinny in-shape guy I eventually married. I have never dated a muscular in-shape guy. Up until recently I was pretty well convinced that there weren't any guys who liked to work out who also had a brain in their heads for anything *other* than working out. All the brainy guys (the ones I'm more interested in talking to) spent more time doing other things than working out, and looked it.

That's probably a really awful stereotype, it should be possible to be brainy and buff at the same time. I wouldn't know, because I'm not likely to meet buff guys doing the things I like to do (read books, putter in the garage, mess around on the computer, pet cats, watch food TV).

Of course, as a body I'm not likely to catch the interest of someone who works out regularly--I don't look the type, and I'm not, really. I never hung out at clubs or gyms or beaches or places where skimpy clothes were the norm--I'm an introvert, and those places are for extroverts.

For me now to become interested in working out is somewhat out of character. If I do other things that are out of character in a similar way, I might run into some brainy buff guys. But we won't be dating. :)

shris
:eat:
Married 10 years so far..

All the guys I know that workout are really nice guys and are pretty intelligent to boot. I think a lot of them will surprise you. We have other hobbies but yes do have an obsession with working out. Some guys like cars some guys like pumping iron.

I bet you that the big guy lifting 400lbs in the corner by himself might be into something like classical music or even chess. He wouldn't tell all the girls, only girl men play chess. Stereotypes suck!

Hey, Just had to say that I'm a big introvert and I go to the gym :) Don't go to clubs or any other place you mentioned though. I think John Stone is a brainy guy and he's got muscles...the combo is rare though.

If you're not interested in a thing yourself, it's hard to meet people who are--you move in different circles.

I have never been that interested in exercise particularly. I'm still not, except that John's photos show how much faster the process goes with exercise than it ever did for me without. Exercise isn't the end for me, it's the means. Kinda like the difference between a car enthusiast and someone who has a car so they can get from here to there.

In high school there was a guy who worked out regularly that I liked, but we never went out because he was in the "in" crowd and I wasn't. In college I met up with an overweight guy I liked, and then a very skinny in-shape guy I eventually married. I have never dated a muscular in-shape guy. Up until recently I was pretty well convinced that there weren't any guys who liked to work out who also had a brain in their heads for anything *other* than working out. All the brainy guys (the ones I'm more interested in talking to) spent more time doing other things than working out, and looked it.

That's probably a really awful stereotype, it should be possible to be brainy and buff at the same time. I wouldn't know, because I'm not likely to meet buff guys doing the things I like to do (read books, putter in the garage, mess around on the computer, pet cats, watch food TV).

Of course, as a body I'm not likely to catch the interest of someone who works out regularly--I don't look the type, and I'm not, really. I never hung out at clubs or gyms or beaches or places where skimpy clothes were the norm--I'm an introvert, and those places are for extroverts.

For me now to become interested in working out is somewhat out of character. If I do other things that are out of character in a similar way, I might run into some brainy buff guys. But we won't be dating. :)

shris
:eat:
Married 10 years so far..

Some guys like cars some guys like pumping iron.


I like both! :tu: I'm a real catch ladies! j/k :spaz: :whistle:

At the end of the day, its down to what it is that attracts you to someone. For example, some people like blonde hair, black hair, big chest, whatever. Likewise, some like people who are outgoing, or introverted, good sense of humour, deep, layed back or whatever. The same goes for hobbies and interests. You might find someones interest in working out attractive, or someones interest in sport, charity work, animals... c what i mean? I work out a lot, but its not something i look for in a girl, as i prefer opposites, as its more interesting to learn about different things and have a different point of view in a relationship. However, one of the things that i think is important is for my partner to have self respect and be in good health. Thats doesnt mean pumping iron every day, but it does mean not wacking junk food down their neck 24/7. Its just what u look for in a person. What you find attractive and what attracts you to someone is different. Mucscely guys might be attractive, doesnt mean u'll be attracted to them.

The saying goes, "Looks will get a partner, but its personality that keeps them".

:)

I'm just wondering :) All the guys I've dated have not been obese, but I have never dated a guy who worked out and ate healthy like John or any of the guys on this site. I guess to date a guy who is inshape and who also loves to work out and eat healhty is a fantasy..isn't that weird?

When my wife met me, I was over 220 pounds ... I was 245+ at the height of my weight gain, but that was after we were married, so I'm not sure what I weighed in at when she met me. I had an ego that always got in the way and was a slob. Somehow, she managed to see through and past all of that.

Together we lost over 100 pounds. And what we learned in the process is that it is about much more than just the weight.

When you say you want to date a muscular guy - you might be looking for someone who is superficially "attractive," or you might be saying that you simply want someone who respects themselves. Nothing wrong with that.

There is no reason why anyone has to maintain ultra low body fat or remain shredded. But when we are overweight, there is a root cause to that. The food addiction is just something "instant" to gratify ourselves in order to mask some other, deeper problem. I have worked with many overweight people and it always comes down to an inner change - to a focus on the problems in their life - that really empowers them to transform. In other words, while some believe they can gain confidence by dropping weight, I have found the reverse to be true - when people learn to love themselves and respect themselves, then they have the power and discipline to make a major change.

So my advice is not to think there is anything wrong with wanting to date someone fit. First, take a look at yourself. Are you living a healthy lifestyle - does that muscular, fit person "deserve" to share a life with you - meaning do you take care of yourself as much as they will take care of themselves? And if not, can you find a special person and help them to make those changes and learn to respect themselves?

I hope this all makes sense. My wife and I were deeply in love despite how we looked on the outside - but in order to love ourselves and respect ourselves, we got into great shape. Not because of the superficial benefit of "looking good" but the deeper, driving force of "feeling good" because we are now living healthy. This means more energy, more passion for life, more time to enjoy with our children.

Best of health and success,

Jeremy Likness

I've dated one girl who worked out a lot, but I have never been the muscular guy for a girl to date. Until now (umm, I mean soon). :p

I've also dated a few girls who treated school like I now treat fitness and health. My last girlfriend was consumed by her studies to the detriment of our relationship and most of her friendships. When I realized she would always be like that, I had to step away. She will have a masters soon, and after that her obsession will turn to her career. While I am definitely motivated and on the verge of obsessed with my health, I will never let it run my life.

I suspect what most of us want is someone who takes care of themselves. I've only been really getting healthy for about four months, but I've been trying to start for years. In the past, and especially with my one really health obsessed ex, I was the one who negatively influenced the habits of others. I shudder to think about what a meal consisted of back when I was in college. We're talking foot long sub with all the meats, 32 oz soda, chips, and a big dessert. I was like that for probably 10 years, and the thing is, now I know I can't date someone who eats like that. I suppose there are exceptions and if I meet the "right" woman I would make the effort, but really I'm not even interested in someone who doesn't take care of herself. And this isn't me being cocky... it's me knowing I would fail in that situation, either by getting back into bad habits or by growing unhappy with that person.

So right now I'm all about me. I need to be happy before I'll even be worth dating. And these last four months have made me much happier in general, and brave enough to quit my job and move on to hopefully better things.

What was my point? Sorry for getting off on a tangent. We all are probably looking for people who aren't necessarily obsessed with fitness, but who take care of themselves and aren't intimidated by those of us who need to log every calorie and turn down a lot of foods we used to live off of.

So right now I'm all about me. I need to be happy before I'll even be worth dating. And these last four months have made me much happier in general, and brave enough to quit my job and move on to hopefully better things.

That's exactly what I think and what 've done as well. People should make themselves happy, too many rely on the opposite sex to give them happiness. :tucool: